How to Compose an Email to Get Noticed
Many men are afraid of the first email, sure that they’ll mess it up somehow and lose all the chemistry they’ve already had with women by setting up a killer profile on the site.
However, this isn’t exactly true. You can’t lose any dates by sending the first email, since about 98 percent of dates on dating websites happen because a man sent out an email first.
A good first email will get you more dates.
A good email sets the tone of the whole relationship you want to have with any given woman. You can figure out what she likes, win her with charm, and tell her a little about yourself, all in a couple hundred words.
Of course, a bad email will get you fewer dates—but it’s still better than no email at all. Just be aware of the fact that the better your email is, the more likely it is to get you the dates you want.
Many emails have red flags.
We don’t mean anything obvious, but there are a lot of things you can do in a first email that will completely turn a woman off. The best naughty email advice we can give you is not to do any of the following things when you’re composing your first email:
- Rambling on and on. A couple hundred words will suffice. An email of 1,000 words right off the bat is going to send a woman running for the hills to get away from the crazy talker.
- Pleading for sex or a date. If you ever find yourself asking her for something instead of letting her know that you’re available, back up and get out.
- Asking about her sexual history. Don’t ever ask her if she’s slept with a lot of guys, or if she’s a virgin. This is not the kind of thing a woman wants to talk about with a stranger, and you are a stranger.
- Asking if she’s an escort or a stripper. No, it’s not a compliment, and she won’t be excited to hear it.
These are the things that will turn any woman off. There are a lot of “yellow flags” as well, such as using cheesy pickup lines, asking women if they’re models, or making a lot of jokes.
Those things can turn some women off, but others are kind of into it. With those, use discretion, and know that they’re high risk, but can also be high payoff. This is in contrast to the red flags, which will just turn any woman off the idea of dating you.
A good email is worth a thousand bad ones.
Fortunately, there are a lot of things you can do that will be instant panty droppers. Our best naughty email tips involve using these while avoiding the red flags.
Our first email strategy is a little strange, but stay with us. This one is true almost all the time, even if it sounds confusing and surprising if you haven’t been on dating sites for very long.
Don’t lead by complimenting a woman’s looks.
Literally every guy online will be telling this woman how hot she is. They’ll be telling her she has great legs, beautiful eyes, and a great figure, even if it’s not true.
Never think that you’ll be the first guy who compliments an ugly or fat girl, and think you can get in good that way. You’re not even the 2,000th guy to “figure” that one out. It doesn’t work. They either think you’re making fun of them or you’re just trying to get into their pants, which you are.
Talk about something besides looks.
Talk about how much this woman has intrigued you with her profile. That’s something less common, and yet it works way more of the time to get a woman’s attention.
Talk about finding their turn-ons.
Women don’t want to hear about how hot they are. They want to hear about all the awesome sex they’re going to have. They’re not on a naughty dating site to get their ego stroked, they’re there to get the kind of pleasure they’re not having any luck finding on other websites.
If you stick to these tips, you’re going to get what you want—and your first email is going to be a huge success.