Fetishes You Should Mention for Naughtier Dating
Why naughty dating instead of regular dating?
One of the big draws for many people is the fact that naughty dating allows them to explore the darker, more hidden side of their personalities without fear of ridicule. In other words, they’re here to give in to the desires that don’t get to see the light of day very often, if at all.
When you’re engaging in naughty dating, fetishes can work to your advantage instead of your disadvantage. You don’t have to hide the things that really get you off, and you don’t have to worry that, within reason, the woman you’re seeing is going to be turned off.
These are sort of the naughty dating basics. You want to be able to reveal your fetishes to someone, or you won’t be getting the kind of sex that you really want in life.
Talking about your fetishes can get you more women.
On most dating sites, this isn’t true. Women are on most dating sites for an emotional connection, and maybe a sexual one. On naughty dating sites, this isn’t nearly so true.
You still have to be wary of the big reveal.
The big reveal—that is, the moment that you tell a woman about your fetishes—needs to be handled well. If it isn’t, you’re not going to get what you want from her, and you’re not going to have nearly as good a time on your naughty dating website.
Women are looking for other fetishists to play around with.
One of the biggest reasons you actually get some of the hottest women on naughty dating sites instead of traditional dating sites is that women are looking to express themselves in ways that aren’t socially acceptable. A good-looking woman can get a regular date anywhere; she can’t necessarily get a date who will let her tie him up and walk on him everywhere.
The rule for mentioning fetishes: mention whatever is 100 percent necessary for you right away. Mention anything else optional and common as well.
If something is absolutely necessary for you to get off, put it on your profile. If women can’t handle it, they’re not going to be the kind of women you want to go on a date with.
But in general, there are some fetishes that are a little more “vanilla,” which you can mention at pretty much any time.
Some of the fetishes you can mention right away include:
- Light bondage
- Feather teasing/tickling
- Body paint
- Gentle role-play
However, some more hardcore fetishes, you should wait until you know this woman a little better first. In general, this involves anything that involves negotiated consent and anything that involves the possibility of physical harm.
Some of the fetishes you should wait to mention include:
- Consent play (rape fantasies, sleeping sex, etc.)
- Hardcore bondage (any time the subject can’t get out by themselves, anything other than gentle scarves)
- Watersports (urine)
- Scat (feces)
- Erotic Asphyxiation (choking, strangulation, smothering)
- Anything involving pain (wax play, slapping, bruising)
Again, if any of these is integral to you being able to get off, go ahead and mention it on your profile. Just be prepared for the fact that it’s going to turn a few people off. If people are turned off by it, of course, you won’t be able to have fun with them anyway.
Don’t be upset if someone doesn’t share your kinks—and don’t kink-shame.
If a woman tells you about one of her kinks, do not put her down for it or ask where it came from. Simply saying whether you’d be into trying it or whether you’d rather not is good enough.